FAQs

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What is Philosophical Counselling?

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Philosophical counselling is the use or application of philosophical principles and methods of analyzing and understanding the ultimate realities of life and with humans in the resolution of problems being experienced in the course of living. It is a process of dialogue that brings understanding to life's problems and perspective to life's experiences. By engaging with the individual, for the purpose of helping an individual deal with a problem or an issue that is of concern, suffering can be alleviated. A philosophical counsellor applies a method to both the content and process of inquiry and applies the insights of the greatest wisdom traditions to help individuals deal with their problems.

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Who is philosophical counselling for?

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Typical clients are "sane," or normal and functional and not mentally ill. Philosophical counselling is known to be "therapy for the sane," meaning that they may function perfectly well, but feel trapped within their functional lives, yearning for more but not knowing exactly what they want. A vast group of potential clients are those who are searching for personal growth and increased authenticity. They function well in their lives, may have solid jobs and intact families, and are successful by all traditional notions of the word “success.” Yet they feel incomplete, unfulfilled, and have deep longings for something more, something just out of the grasp of awareness. According to Dr. Lou Marinoff, clients typically suffer from the following:

a) ethical or moral incompleteness or inconsistency.

b) lack of meaning or purpose and lack of clarity in direction.

c) unhappiness or lack of personal or professional fulfillment.

d) Undetermined or conflicting belief systems.

e) issues requiring any philosophical clarification or determination.

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Why do I need to see a counsellor?

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There are generally four reasons for seeing a counsellor. First, to solve everyday life problems. Maybe a friendly gesture has revealed that a life pattern, habit, or way of being in the world is not working. Change is required, and the way to change is needed. Questions such as "How do I change?" are indicative of such a need. There are unknowns, and change has proved to be difficult. Counselling is to change.

Second, when issues arise that create uncertainty and there is a feeling of being stuck and unable to move forward. Maybe there is job frustration or relationship conflict or other life transition. A sense of going nowhere pervades the psyche and a downcast feeling is leading to unhappiness, even angst. You may even be without hope. Inspiration is needed, so too is vision, and a source of light to dispel the darkness. In one word; hope. Counseling is to restore hope.

Third, you need to face the truth. Maybe you have experienced a profound life-changing event that needs to be talked through in order to free yourself of the pain. A confession is required. A sharing of a secret. Talking about the problem will end the hiddenness and secrecy. Holding onto feelings and thoughts without properly talking them through and facing the truth leads to stagnancy, a sense of lifelessness, stress, shame and guilt. Counselling is to live your own process.

Fourth, to propel your self-awareness and understanding of yourself into a new dimension or space of awareness that reflects your deepest desire to experience being fully human through by participating in the Mystery through the grasp of the new.

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What problems can be helped?

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  • Ethical conflicts and duties
  • Distress
  • Pain (Physical, Emotional, Spiritual)
  • Alienation/Loneliness
  • Anger/Conflict Issues
  • Career change and frustration
  • Anxiety/worry/depression
  • Guilt
  • Eating concerns
  • Family concerns
  • Loss & grief
  • Negative thought patterns
  • Personal Well-being
  • Lack of confidence
  • Loneliness
  • Questions about sexuality
  • Relationship issues/Divorce/separation
  • Inability to achieve goals
  • Mid-life crisis
  • Addiction
  • Self-Esteem & Self-worth

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What questions do individuals ask?

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"Where am I? Who am I? How did I come to be here? What is this thing called the world? How did I come into the world? Why was I not consulted? And if I am compelled to take part in it, where is the director? I want to see him?" – Soren Kierkegaard.

  1. What brings life meaning?
  2. What is life for?
  3. Is this all there is?
  4. How can I plan to go after what I want in life?
  5. Where am I going?
  6. Am I going in the right direction?
  7. What path should I choose?
  8. Is my chosen path congruent with my life's tasks?
  9. Will the work truly fulfill me?
  10. Who am I?
  11. What do I really know?Is this all there is?
  12. What can I do to start acting on my own behalf?
  13. What are my unique talents and gifts and how can I bring those out into the world?
  14. How can I live in balance?
  15. What is the most important thing to do?
  16. When is the most important time to do it?
  17. How did I come into being?
  18. How do I know right from wrong?
  19. What is the right thing?
  20. Are we living our karma?
  21. Is there a God?
  22. What is God?
  23. Why do human beings suffer?
  24. Where am I headed after I die?
  25. What am I doing here?
  26. Where do I fit into the cosmos?
  27. What is the good life?
  28. What is good?
  29. What is life about?
  30. Why should we believe in God?
  31. Why is there evil in the world?
  32. What am I to make of myself?

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What can I expect my first session?

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In your first session, Dr. Lovejoy will ask certain questions about yourself and your life concerning the reason why you sought counselling, the context or your personal history, which involves questions about your family and work, and your current situation, which includes the emotions and symptoms that you are feeling. Dr. Lovejoy will provide guidance for your goals, expectations and help you gain deeper insight into your problem. Your answers will help Dr. Lovejoy better understand your problem and be able to help you resolve it.

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What is E-Counselling?

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e-Counselling is a fast, and efficient method of online counselling that uses your personal handheld device, smart-phone, or Skype messaging to facilitate a session.

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How long does counselling take?

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Counselling typically takes from 3 to 5 sessions that last for approximately 1 hour. While some answers can be given within only 1 session, most clients are interested and compelled to go deeper within to experience their living process and ask other questions.

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Do I need a referral?

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You do not need a referral to have counselling.

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Can I make a payment online or over the phone?

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You can make a payment online. We accept paypal and e-transfers from your bank institution as forms of payment. We do not accept phone payments.

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Are your services confidential?

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Yes, our services are confidential and all counsellors are bound by legal and moral obligations within an ethical framework. This requires that our counsellor be trustworthy. We proceed on the principle, respecting clients privacy and confidentiality are fundamental requirements for keeping trust and respecting client autonomy. So rest assured, no information will be given out, without your consent. An exception is made in the case that there may be a threat of harm to self or others or if a crime or threat is disclosed, as well as if information is court ordered. In these cases, the counsellor has an ethical obligation to act in certain ways which balance the right to confidentiality and the need to communicate others.

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Do you offer childcare?

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We currently do not offer childcare.

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Is my session covered by insurance?

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Most insurance policies offer supportive services for everyday problems and will cover counselling services.

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What are my rights and responsibilities?

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"An individual remains free: free to think, to learn from his experiences, to look elsewhere for human relationship; an individual remains free to start afresh and to pursue his happiness." - Leonard Peikoff

Clients have the right to:

  • Be treated with respect, dignity, honesty, and without discrimination
  • Privacy and confidentiality, with respect to the legal and ethical limitations that require information be obtained or released, including:
    • If the client is in danger to self or others.
    • If a child (persons under 18 years) is in need of protection.
    • If a file is court ordered
  • Be in a safe environment.
  • Ask questions and seek clarification at all times about their process.
  • Be treated as the expert in your own personal experiences.
  • Receive complete and accurate information regarding your process.
  • Report inaccuracies and make complaints to your counsellor.
  • Access to your personal information in your confidential file by appointment.
  • Information about services prior to beginning a program.
  • Inquire about the qualifications, training and experience of our staff.

Clients have the responsibility to:

  • Provide accurate and complete information as requested to allow the counselling process to begin and the developing of your process.
  • Be fully and actively involved in all aspects of the process as demonstrative of being fully human, including
    • asking questions to ensure understanding
  • Inform your counsellor of any disability, medical condition or need that requires special recognition or awareness that could affect the process.
  • Treat all staff and others with respect.
  • Attend to your session time promptly and provide notice if you cannot attend, noting that our cancellation policy requires 24 hours notice for a full refund, minus a $30 processing fee, or the full counselling fee will be charged.
  • Let us know if your address or telephone number has changed
  • Pay bills in a timely manner
  • Inform the counsellor of all conditions that you feel are worsening you and could affect the process.

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What are the counselor’s qualifications?

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Dr. Lovejoy has a Ph.D. in Philosophy from York University, which gives her the privilege of being able to work as a Canadian Counselor.